As to different backgrounds, well…you do know the first Baptists were Anglicans! In the end we have to concede that we all share the same heritage. We’re all connected. We’re all descended from believers who belonged to the undivided church way, way back! That’s something I really feel in myself.
AARON: To return your first question to me – from your own journey why do you think it is that some Gen Y’s seem to be coming to some of these conclusions 20 years earlier than you say you did? I ask because I know we share many of the same things I talked about before.
PAUL: Sure there are generational shifts from Boomers to Gen Xs to Gen Ys etc. But I reckon we’re more connected than that. Sometimes GenYs see things one way precisely because of the experience of generations that have gone before. We all look and learn don’t we. So I reckon we Gen Xers and Baby Boomers are all a bit more Gen Y and a bit more millennial in our thinking than we were ten-fifteen years ago!
I reckon this is all part of how the Holy Spirit leads the church forward too. For me my journey has radicalized me. Like you, I am rooted in some fundamentals and increasingly stretched in my outlook and practice. Maybe another layer of connection you and I share is that the seasoned, older guys who mentored you are guys who, just like myself, have been radicalized by their journeys.
AARON: Paul, there are a lot of theories out there about “what to do with kids” in a house/organic church setting. You and I are in similar places in life with the ages of our kiddos. I’ve heard a lot of “ideas” for engaging kids (Ages 1.5 – 4.5) in a church gathering, and have recently experienced some after much searching. What does this look like for you and your family? Specifically, how do you ENGAGE your children in a gathering vs. “manage around them”?
I have been impressed by some larger churches which run parallel age streams through the morning meeting. The plus is that each age gets to do church in a meaningful way. The minus is that it separates families and segregates generations. Another current pattern is “Come and bear with us as we help the kids do church in a way that engages them.” I like that for the kids’ sake but see the need for a supplementary program to edify the grown-ups. For a time-poor family that might add up to a lot of time.
Perhaps the best compromise is one where we’re all in together as much as possible for worship, fellowship and ministry times, and separate the ages out just for the teaching track. In my most recent plant that was the model we leaned to.
The commonest lament I hear among my urban and suburban neighbours is of churches grieving over having entirely lost contact with the current generation of young families and perplexing over why. Early on a Sunday morning, after six days at work, five beginning with the rush and panic of the school run, when the alarm goes off at 6.30 or 7am to get families to church for 9.30am or 10am I think I can guess at one reason why.
I hope that doesn’t sound critical because I loved each of the churches where I experienced each of those various scenarios. Right now in 2014 what I’m most hungry for is a vibrant sense of Christian community for my kids.