Bea limped down the street, passing a number of specialist hospitals on the way to my office. She walked with a cane and with some difficulty.
Clearly she had come wanting physical healing and she described how her back had become progressively more painful over the previous ten years. She was afflicted with constant pain and her mobility was significantly impacted.
Our bodies often know the root cause of our physical problems. However our conscious minds are often unaware. It is our subconscious that carries this knowledge. There are various modalities that allow us to tap the subconscious for this information, which can sometimes be the key to achieving healing.
I watched as my colleague, Don, used the simple modality of listening to explore the problem. In the course of their conversation something prompted Don to ask Bea to talk about her family. It quickly became apparent that Bea hated her father. Her body became visibly tense and appeared even more immobile as she spoke of her father’s many faults. It wasn’t a story of abuse as such but it was easy to see why her father’s behaviour had left Bea feeling hurt and resentful. As she expressed her grievances with her dad Bea’s scrunched up posture became even more pronounced.
Don then explained that we wanted to release her of the effects of all the resentment that she carried with her. To achieve it we asked Bea to verbalize an intention to forgive her father, to stop investing into her anger towards him and stop harboring any desires for retribution.
If I had met Bea a few years later I would have told her “Sometimes we mull past hurts over in our minds as if we can somehow make ourselves feel better about what happened by re-understanding it or repeating the injustice of it to ourselves. But forgiveness means abandoning all hope of a better past!” I find that this way of seeing forgiveness clicks with a lot of people.
So we said, “As well as you can, with whatever level of sincerity you can feel, speak as if your father were sitting right here, and tell him that you are leaving his wrongdoings and all your hurt feelings behind, that you forgive him, and that whatever your relationship will or will not be moving forward, you wish him well.”
This she did. And the relief was obvious. Immediately Bea visibly straightened up and began breathing more deeply. Her breathing slowed and she began to relax. Then after a few moments she bent down and picked up her cane to go. However we still hadn’t addressed her back so I quickly offered to give some attention to her back pain. Bea looked up and beamed. She moved her arms and legs and flexed her back.
“Oh My G-d!!” she cried out. “My back’s completely better!”
Then we prayed. But it wasn’t a prayer for healing. It was prayer of thanks to God for releasing the emotion that had become trapped in Bea’s back all those years. As soon as the trapped emotion was released, and all the negativity energy of anger, hurt and resentment were let go – in such a simple way, all her pain and posture problems vanished.
That was 30 years ago. I learned a great lesson from Don and Bea. Sometimes the simple art of listening changes the story.
From that time to this I always use the basic modality of listening when people come for healing. Sometimes a physical problem is only the surface symptom of a trapped emotion. That’s why in my involvement with healing in Australia today the healing of trapped emotions remains a vital aspect of my practice.